You Don’t Get Any Better, When….

“When you start taking things personally that is when you don’t get better”!

This was University of Michigan football player, Morgan Trent’s profound, psychological insight regarding accepting intense, emotional instruction from his coaches. from Go Blue Wolverine interviewed Morgan Trent regarding the yelling and highly confrontive coaching style of the new coaches.

Morgan Trent went on to say about taking things personally:

“You want to get upset and that never helps you out. You have to understand and get to a point where you have to realize they are only trying to help you.

Rich Rod always says that he always wants to take you to a place that you can’t take yourself and he does. It is a difficult painful project but that is his main goal.”

Morgan also had a wonderful perception. Oftentimes, when people take things personally, they feel disrespected. Morgan Trent realizes that his coaches are not trying to be disrespectful. He told Sam

“Our coaches are never disrespectful. I don’t know what you have heard. They weren’t coming in and acting crazy and cussing everybody out just for fun and trying to break you down. It wasn’t that. It is just a different style of coaching. They still have respect for us and they would never do anything to disrespect us or anything like that.”

In our personal lives we we must learn to not take coaching personal. Sometimes we enroll in classes or activities, where we will be coached. On other occasions, we and our significant others try to coach each other.

In our personal lives, it is also important to learn how to not feel disrespected, put down, and maintain the perception that our family members are trying to help us instead of attack or demean us.

Too often, our insecurities intrude into our perceptions and as a result we personalize highly emotional reactions from those who want to help us.

Although it is hard, it is emotionally more satisfying to remember that our significant others are respectful, helpful and loving even when their coaching techniques are difficult to accept.

Remember, We Live within the Environment Created by Our Choices.